Before surgery we do not break our friends into "Type Classifications" that is just not something we are taught to do, we either have friends, acquaintances or enemies it's that simple. It is not so simple after surgery, relationships are so multifaceted now that you can't break them down into the simple categories you once could, our surgery has brought out incredible changes in not just our own personalities but in everyone around us. I have learned that there are several of these new "Type Classifications" that our friends before and after surgery will fall into, they are as follows.
1) our "Skinny Friends" who had been comfortable in our obesity because they were guaranteed to look good next to us, they now feel they have to "Step it Up" to continue to look as good, IE we are no longer their token FAT FRIEND.
2) Our overweight friends that now feel left behind and may be feeling jealous that you took the step they don't have the financial means or emotional capability to do themselves. they may feel they have lost there connection with you since you can't eat with them like you once could.
3) The new friends who wouldn't give you the time of day before the surgery probably because you did not look good enough to be seen with in there eyes but now they want to be part of the "New You" train leaving the station...purely a publicity thing.
4) The "friends" who are waiting not too far away that didn't agree with our decision to have surgery in the first place and are eagerly awaiting the day we gain even an ounce back so they can shout the almighty " I Told You So"
I am sure that there are probably many more types but these are the most common ones I have found, this is not to say that everyone will fall into one of these categories and you can never trust any of your friends again. I do still have many friends that were my friends before my surgery and are still my friends, they were so supportive to me and they cheered me on every step of the way and for them I am forever grateful. this list is for those exceptions, of course they can exhibit one or more of those traits at any given time so please be careful.
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